these are really simple yet effective tips. great reminder!
these are really simple yet effective tips. great reminder!
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It is so important to give children honest feedback rather than empty praise. Especially if we want them to grow to be independent thinkers and willing to take risks. It’s a matter of not making judgements – if I don’t like something, I can at least ask why they like it rather than judging their creativity or preferences.
This is such a great article. I think it’s super important to “focus on the process versus the end product”!
This is really important for me. It’s something I haven’t thought about and we definitely are constant praisers..
I appreciate this post very much, thanks.
Jack
My mum always says ‘why don’t you…? You’re such a good…’ or ‘you are so empathetic (or whatever), I’ve seen you be like that in the past’. I am now 25 and since 18 I’ve been the most lazy, procrastinating piece of s*** and I have no concept of reality. I can only admit this cognitively and I don’t even know what this means. Nothing means anything to me. When it comes to me having to ‘fend for myself’ I know I will be better off dead because I’ve been emotionally coddled all my life and allowed to neglect my responsibilities to the point where I don’t accept any responsibility. I feel I have to commit suicide because it will be that awful. Don’t let this happen to your child! I read articles on ‘how to take responsibility’ and ‘how to stop feeling entitled’ and none of it means anything to me I’m lost and I can’t even comprehend it. I’m only writing this because I’m bored. Don’t let this happen to your child