[…] and expects special favors and generally succeeds in getting them. He watches TV, instead of picking up his toys. She doesn’t like the dinner. You cook another meal just for […]
[…] and expects special favors and generally succeeds in getting them. He watches TV, instead of picking up his toys. She doesn’t like the dinner. You cook another meal just for […]
[…] When your child has been told “no” repeatedly and is understandably in a disagreeable mood, you can almost be sure that another request from you won’t be positively received. (Wouldn’t you feel the same?) Instead, think how you might be able to engage your child in a positive way that will in effect help him or her be more cooperative. […]
[…] sitting aparts happen consistently. During the sitting apart you are right there teaching them, descriptively praising them for calming down. This is very different from a time-out where not much learning takes place […]
[…] She suggests that parents take a route of communication/discipline that is beneficial to both parent and child. Another bonus is the child develops self-discipline. Every time he forgoes what he wants to do in favor of what you want him to do, your child is exercising his prefrontal cortex. That’s the part of his brain that gives him the ability to give up what he wants for something that’s more important to him. That’s the beginning of self-discipline, so that he can choose to do homework instead of surfing the web when he gets a bit older. He’s also learning to want to cooperate. […]
This article would have been called Behavior Modification when my children were young and it works sometimes. Not all children will respond to this technique especially if there are mental health issues and parents need to know this. I’m still using the tools I was taught thirty years ago with my children on my grandchildren and most of the time it does work and the mean parent becomes the much loved grandparent. However, parents and grandparents alike must understand that they the adult must never become angry with the first attempts fail. They can not stay angry, they must move past one incident and go on. Berating a child will not help their self confidence and I see so many parents that do berate their children. Long lectures to any child regardless of age is not appropriate. Any age under 9 and they can’t grasp the idea of the lecture. They just know Mom/Dad is mad, I’m a failure. Above the age 9 and the child thinks Mom/Dad is mad, so what’s new? And the child shuts down not hearing anything. That’s were the term KISS came into play. Keep It Short & Sweet.
Event: Defiant to Cooperative in Three Steps with Noel Janis-Norton
[…] Description: Do you find yourself having to repeat, remind or yell to get cooperation? In this talk, Noël Janis-Norton will share three practical strategies you can immediately use to […]