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Wendy’s book was my parenting bible in the early years. Striving for family unity not perfect children is a terrific goal. Thanks for this timely reminder.
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great post.
my only thought as this was advice for 3 -6 year old was, why are they on a team or in a play and why is there an in-group? doesn’t seem age appropriate. maybe it was a stock answer used for the wrong age group?
“When your child doesn’t get the cool English teacher, make the team, get a big part in the play, or gets ejected from the in-group remind yourself that disappointments are necessary preparation for adult life.”
I love this list of good enough parenting reminders. I think I might need to read it every day when I wake up. Thank you for making me really think about the expectations I’m setting for my little ones.
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